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A Secret for Success and Happiness: Wait Until Marriage
Even if you don't believe in the teachings of the Bible on sexual morality, there is still a compelling case for living the principle of "no sex outside of marriage." Sexual morality is one of the greatest principles that the world needs to be taught, a principle that could restore a lot of peace, happiness, and physical health in the world today.
Those who add a sexual component to their dating relationships often miss the phase of actually getting to know and love a person during dating, instead focusing on the passions that can blind people to all else. These relationships are less likely to be based on genuine common values and interests and genuine respect and love for the other person. Meaningful conversation and empathy are less likely. The other person may just become an object or plaything.
Those who have no qualms about sex before marriage are more likely to accept sex outside of marriage once they are wedded, and that means terrible heartache or even disease for the betrayed spouse. Marry someone with high moral values - and have those values yourself - if you want a successful and happy marriage.
Those who want to jump into a sexual relationship right away tend to lack physical self-control. They tend to be slaves to their passion. The reality of a great relationship and great marriage is that both partners need self-discipline and strength to wade through the many challenges of life without abandoning each other. A spouse with physical self-control in sexuality is also more likely to not lose his or her temper, to not be abusive, etc.
A terrible reality of sex outside of marriage is that children are born without the benefit of having two parents. It is clearly best for a child to have both. Given the fact that children raised by only one parent are more likely to be in poverty, turn to crime, receive less education, etc., and are less likely to get the attention and guidance they need that comes from two loving parents, we should strive to make sure that our children are raised in the best possible way: in a healthy marriage with two loving parents. Many people do a great job as single parents, but when it's possible, there is no doubt that two good parents are better than one.
Do I need to mention disease? Yes, because too many of you have fallen for the lie that a condom makes everything OK. Some STDs are transmitted even with condoms. HPV, for example, which can result in cancer for many women, is transmitted in many cases even if condoms are used. The only safe sex is sex inside of marriage between two disease-free people - and that's most likely when the two people have lived morally clean lives.
One of the best things you can do for your future husband or wife is to keep yourself free of someone else's sexually transmitted diseases by choosing now to live a morally clean life. Wait until marriage. Face it, that cute girl or guy that you meet at some bar may very well have a disease. Do you want to pass that on as a gift to your future spouse? Don't be an idiot.
i totally disagree with you.